September 21, 2011
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Sage Advice
Maybe 3 times a week, I walk by the same girl on my way from the bus stop to my office. She’s pretty attractive: asian, I’m guessing chinese or vietnamese, about 5’6”, maybe in her mid-20’s, slim figure, brunette w/ long hair, a lil past her shoulders, didn’t notice a ring on her finger. Pretty much the highlight of my day. At first, I just wanted to smile at her. It’s just a smile, how hard can it be? Well, the smiling part is way easy, but it’s kinda hard to smile at her when we never make eye contact. Being that we’re walking in opposite directions, the window of opportunity is small. I can’t look like a fool smiling at the her the entire time she’s within viewing distance (can I ??). And whenever we are within a suitable viewing distance, she’s either looking down or away, like she’s not looking my way on purpose, freakin cockblock. So what the hell am I supposed to do?
I now know understand the correct answer is “absolutely nothing”, and I’m really good at doing that. I was told by an experienced veteran of the game that I was putting too much pressure on myself, and that it would not lead to anything good. I initially just brushed that off, cause my thinking was simple: it’s only a smile, it’s not that hard. But every time I passed her, I’d kick myself for not being able to do anything, and I would hella think about it afterwards. And then my imagination would take over. That’s when I realized that I refused some sage advice, and now I know better. I can’t force the issue, nor can I try to. I’ll try my best to not think about it (as much). But if the opportunity presents itself, I gotta be ready for it.
