What can I say? I shouldn’t be surprised. I sorta knew was he was like, but after spending the entire weekend with him, all I can do is shake my head.
Yeaup, I’m talking about Chris’ friend, Jayr. From the few times that I’ve been around him, I know he’s ignorant and offensive, but never knew the extent of it. Sorry if I'm putting him on blast, but I gotta get this off my chest.
It was bad right from the start. During our 4-hour drive down to SoCal, for some reason he brought up rape. He was totally using it inappropriately, like using it in ice breakers or pick-up lines to get girls or just blurting it out to a hot girl. We told him that it is almost never appropriate to ever mention rape. He tried using it in different situations and asking us if it was appropriate, and each time we’d shake our heads and say no. I swear, he views rape as a good not bad thing, that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Maybe 2 hours after meeting him, Mikey wanted to knock him out. Mikey was only around him during the concert, but pretty much the entire time, Jayr was shouting obscenities and other ignorant nonsense. He was complaining how he didn’t know what anyone was saying, that he needed subtitles, and he said this ever time anyone didn’t speak in English (mind you, we were at a KOREAN music festival). He was constantly proclaiming “da bay, mayn!!”, and also kept asking “where’s 4minute?!?!”, and just plainly yelled out “TITS!!!”. He was seriously pissing off the girls in the box next to us, and both Mikey and I were totally embarrassed to even be associated with him. Chris didn’t say anything, cause that’s his boy. When Chris & Jayr left after 4minute performed, Mikey & I apologized to those girls for Jayr’s behavior. They were, to put it lightly, really fucking pissed off at him, and they could tell that we both were embarrassed.
He mostly likely lost Tony during our car ride from Father’s Office to Diddy Riese, when he started a rant about how he hates the fact that there’s a law against pedophilia & sex with minors, and that he’s thinking of ways to get away it. And then he said if he were to get caught, he’d defend himself, citing how the Aztecs and Romans (or whatever) didn’t have laws against that kind of thing back in the day. WTF, right?!?! When he was saying all that, hella seriously & shit, I think we all (Tony, Chris, & I) collectively thought, “what the hell is wrong with you?” We tried to explain to him why it’s wrong, but he just wouldn’t (more like couldn’t) understand. He is seriously sick in the head. Even Chris couldn’t side with boy on that.
And I also saw another side of Jayr this weekend. Was it the good, “I’m actually a decent human being” side? As if such a side actually exists within him. No, it was the “I’m a creepy pervert” side. So we’re walking around the mall (Americana at Brand in Glendale) and we go into an H&M. Chris goes off and looks around, and I go off and look around too, but Jayr follows me. So I’m just walking around looking at stuff, and then I notice Jayr’s not next to me anymore. So I turn around, and Jayr’s standing in the middle a walkway, with his cellphone up taking a picture of girl (who’s just looking at some clothes on a rack) that’s maybe 10 feet about from him. No shame, not even trying to hide it or anything. And that’s just one example. He was doing this all weekend, basically where ever there were girls around. And sometimes, he even shot videos. Fuckin’ creeper status right there, man.
I didn’t have much respect for Jayr before this trip, and now I have even less, if any left at all. I believe his antics and behavior could mostly stem from lack of knowledge, but his lack of respect or common sense is mind-boggling. He just doesn’t know any better. And when people try to educate him, he just can’t comprehend anything. Chris knows this, tries to help him out, but nothing seems to work.
I’m sort of surprised, yet at the same time not surprised, that Chris is actually (still) friends with Jayr. Sad to say, Chris and Jayr are almost the same person. Their mentality and the way they think (about girls, in particular) is very similar. The big huge difference between them is intelligence level. Chris has a high school and college education. Jayr brags about how he dropped out of high school and how that actually having a high school diploma or GED won't help out his life situation at all. But most importantly, Chris has that filter/aspect, that most normal people have, called respect for others. He knows better not say exactly what he’s thinking all the time. He’s considerate of other people’s feelings. Definitely can not say the same thing about Jayr.
So yeah. I hope I never have to be around Jayr ever again. I can only hope that he seeks help.
edit:
So I asked why Chris is still friends with Jayr. He said there are some perks, like getting free food at L&L. But most importantly, being around Jayr makes him (or anyone next to him) look like the freakin' best human being on the planet. I was hella dying, cause it's soo true. I had never thought about it like that.
